Hello, human and vinyl beings! Today I have a very, very different post for you guys.
By the time you are reading this I will already be on the other side of the globe, visiting my extended family in Israel. I am scheduling this post, and next week’s post, for Saturdays like usual, but I probably won’t be checking my reader or replying to your comments.
First of all, I would like to note that aromantic awareness week didn’t start yet and will only start on Monday, but I wanted to write this before the week starts. It happens every year on the week after Valentine’s Day.
If you are currently very confused and don’t know what this is all about, let me tell you about aromanticism. I will only touch the very basics, but there will be a few links later for you to check out if you want to learn more.
You probably know that people have sexual orientations. Your sexual orientation means who you are sexually attracted to. Being homosexual, for example, means that you are sexually attracted to people that are the same gender as you. There are also romantic orientations, which means who you are romantically attracted to. Usually, your romantic and sexual orientations are the same. For example, a person who is heterosexual is most likely to also be heteroromantic.
This is different for asexual people (who don’t experience sexual attraction) and aromantic people (who don’t experience romantic attraction). I happen to be both aromantic and asexual, but there are plenty of asexual people who experience romantic attraction and plenty of aromantic people who experience sexual attraction. So in aromantic and asexual forums, for example, people usually write down both their sexual orientation and their romantic orientation. For example, aromantic pansexual or heteroromantic asexual.
Please keep in mind that asexuality and aromanticism are very different things, though they are many times confused.
But we are here to talk about aromanticism! As a person who is both aromantic and asexual, I feel like being aromantic affects me more in life. I have no interest in dating, kissing, or being in a relationship. I never had a crush on anyone. And in a culture where romantic relationships are considered to be natural for all people, it is very hard to not date and for people to understand that I don’t care about dating or want to date. This is how it feels for me, but other aros (aromantic people) may feel very differently.
Some aros are interested in traditional romantic relationships or in different intimate relationships. Queerplatonic relationships are a type of relationships that many times involves aros. That means a relationship that is different from a traditional romantic relationship but is still more meaningful than friendship.
If you are interested in learning more, try one of these:
Arocalypse, an aromantic forum
Various articles about aromanticism in Everyday Feminism